I used to dream about marrying a boy who could pick&sing...
There are a few things I wish we talked more about at Bloom - one of them is marriage. We devote a lot of time to motherhood, but most of us also exist in this extremely important other dimension of wife-hood, and we hardly talk about it. Today I'd like to talk about it.
Nate and I had a huge pow wow this weekend about our marriage. It was eye opening and a little bit painful if I can be totally honest. I need to be less selfish. And I need to be more warm in our day to day interactions. I want to work on both of those things. I want to be a cheerful, kind, supportive, sexy wife because I think my husband is about as fine a human being as there is and he deserves that kind of wife. He has things to work on, too. We reminded each other that we don't want to be enduring marriage because we have promises to keep -- we want to be enjoying it. And even for two people who are very compatible and very attracted to each other, that takes a monumental effort.
I want to open this up to a forum, but I realize that the questions I want to ask are kind of personal, so if you feel more comfortable answering anonymously, please do.
* What do you quarrel most over in your marriage? Or what do you feel is keeping you from being happier in your marriage?
*What do you think you could change about yourself or your circumstance to improve your marriage?
* What have you learned that has helped you be a better wife/have a happier marriage?
* What would you like to ask others about marriage?
As I type this, it is ridiculously late.
I will hop on the comment thread tomorrow
and answer these questions about my own marriage....