I've never been a skinny girl. I look back now and want to hit my high school self and tell me that I am beautiful and curvy and that I should love myself because I was actually pretty darn cute. But not skinny. I probably looked my best in college, that magical time of life where you can focus entirely on YOU. Man those were lovely days.
Now I am a mother of 3, living in Los Angeles and finally learning to love my body. I gained close to 40 (OK maybe 50!) pounds with each pregnancy. I never worked very hard at losing too much weight between each baby. One day I realized it had been over a year since my son had been born and I was still wearing the SPANX I bought shortly after his birth. And I can't believe I am admitting this, but I couldn't even fit in the largest size of any designer jeans! To me this was a fate worse than death!
Before (It is no accident I chose such a small picture!)
I decided it was time. Time to work on me. I was 28 years old and I knew it would only get harder the older I got. And it worked! I have had some amazing success and I am here today to share the 3 (actually 4) things that have helped me achieve my goals.
1. Exercise. Let's be honest, you really can't lose weight and keep it off without it. I am pretty much the least athletic person I know. In junior high my friends talked me into joining a basketball league with them and lets just say I was the ONLY girl who never scored in any game. Totally embarrassing. So not only do I not play any sports whatsoever, I hate going to the gym. Too many people staring and just getting there and finding child care, it's just too much work. I would never do it. My sister suggested some work out videos her friends were into. They are only 20 minutes long and they shed fat like you wouldn't believe! If you are interested you can see my fave HERE. I just get up earlier than the kids and then it's over with and my day isn't interrupted. I found that for me as long as exercise isn't a hassle, I can get it done!
2. Eating less. That's all I did. I eat whatever I want, just half of the portion I was eating before. At first this was hard, but after a while my body got used to fewer calories and now that is just how I eat, and I have never felt better! This has been the hardest party of my new lifestyle but it has really been interesting to learn how to listen to my body's cues and to stop eating when I am actually full.
3. Support. It is nearly impossible to change your lifestyle and lose weight without others to join in or encourage you. My husband has been great during all of this. He never in all of our 9 years together made me feel anything less than beautiful but when I decided it was time to lose the weight he has been behind me 100%. He is great at cheering me on and celebrating with me when I reached a new milestone. My friends have also been very supportive, always telling me how great I look and how proud they are of me. They have also been doing the videos and we love to talk about all of the workouts we do!
4. Timing. All of this happened during an incredibly stressful time of my life. I was dealing with some pretty difficult issues and I know that it was partly because of this I succeeded this time around. Stepping on that scale every week was a really high point for me. It gave me a sense of control and satisfaction that I wasn't getting anywhere else. I have come to realize that it really has to be the right time for you mentally and emotionally for this to work.
My total weight loss was 40 pounds. I look and feel better that I have in many years. I am even thinner than I was when I got married!
There is simply no way anyone can lose weight exactly the way I did it. You have to find the things that motivate you. You have to look at your schedule and your self control. Maybe the gym or running or swimming is for you. Maybe you need a stricter diet, like Weight Watchers or something. I am just hoping that by sharing my experience you can get some ideas that can help you improve the way you live. Good luck!